Everyone wants to have a fairytale ending. At a young age we are programed to believe in the "damsel in distress who is saved by a prince charming" (ala) Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty to name a few love stories. We as young girls grow up thinking that life as an adult will eventually result in a happily ever after ending, i.e. girl meets boy, boy saves girl, they fall in love, they marry and they live happily ever after.
Well what comes after the after? A wedding, kids, bills, work? First of, life is no where near that simple, if it was, then the world would be a better place, since there would be no drama, no arguments in relationships et. Of course love is never that easy in fact it is very hard to find, harder to maintain and that much more hard to keep. So why are parents so willing to fill up their daughters' heads with all this 'mambo jumbo'. Why not save them the disappointment and prepare them for love, better yet for life, where problems do not go away because your fairy godmother waved her wand and made it better.
Now don't get me wrong, I am not anti-love, I am anti-bullsh*t. I wish my mother would have prepared me for the real world. Maybe I would have done things different, maybe I would have guarded my heart more, maybe I would have taken the time to think instead of just diving into love. I would have learned to love the right way and not just "fall in love" with love, to search for the fairytale ending.
I want my daughters to grow up knowing that love is beautiful when you find the right person to share it with, when you find the man who is willing to love and respect you and care for you unconditionally. When you are the one and only woman to that man's heart, eyes, and body. That is true love. When waking up together and not wanting to get out of bed because you just want to hold each other and being able to spend hours in each others arms and not say a single word, because no word is needed. When you know and love each other so much that you can finish each other sentences. When being apart is not an option and if you do have to leave each others sight then you are counting the minutes to be back together. Ahh true love. This is the kinda love that happens when you first meet someone, when its new, raw and unselfish. Why can't this last. Why can't we have fairytale endings, why is it so hard to keep a relationship fresh?
Do we just grow tired of the other person? Or is it that we rush things? Can you ever get that feeling back? Can you ever get it back and maintain it, or is it too much work. Nowadays we are rushed with life itself, whether it be work, children, school, friends, family etc that we always have a reason or better yet excuse to be too tired to work at a relationship. If fairytales are fairytales, then why don't we hold on to them, why do we allow the everyday time-consuming things to separate us from our happiness?
I know kids need fairytales to have something to look forward to when they grow up, but why let them expect to have a fairytale ending when happily ever after seems more like happily ever we will wait to see? Just a thought.
Angelkisses
Well what comes after the after? A wedding, kids, bills, work? First of, life is no where near that simple, if it was, then the world would be a better place, since there would be no drama, no arguments in relationships et. Of course love is never that easy in fact it is very hard to find, harder to maintain and that much more hard to keep. So why are parents so willing to fill up their daughters' heads with all this 'mambo jumbo'. Why not save them the disappointment and prepare them for love, better yet for life, where problems do not go away because your fairy godmother waved her wand and made it better.
Now don't get me wrong, I am not anti-love, I am anti-bullsh*t. I wish my mother would have prepared me for the real world. Maybe I would have done things different, maybe I would have guarded my heart more, maybe I would have taken the time to think instead of just diving into love. I would have learned to love the right way and not just "fall in love" with love, to search for the fairytale ending.
I want my daughters to grow up knowing that love is beautiful when you find the right person to share it with, when you find the man who is willing to love and respect you and care for you unconditionally. When you are the one and only woman to that man's heart, eyes, and body. That is true love. When waking up together and not wanting to get out of bed because you just want to hold each other and being able to spend hours in each others arms and not say a single word, because no word is needed. When you know and love each other so much that you can finish each other sentences. When being apart is not an option and if you do have to leave each others sight then you are counting the minutes to be back together. Ahh true love. This is the kinda love that happens when you first meet someone, when its new, raw and unselfish. Why can't this last. Why can't we have fairytale endings, why is it so hard to keep a relationship fresh?
Do we just grow tired of the other person? Or is it that we rush things? Can you ever get that feeling back? Can you ever get it back and maintain it, or is it too much work. Nowadays we are rushed with life itself, whether it be work, children, school, friends, family etc that we always have a reason or better yet excuse to be too tired to work at a relationship. If fairytales are fairytales, then why don't we hold on to them, why do we allow the everyday time-consuming things to separate us from our happiness?
I know kids need fairytales to have something to look forward to when they grow up, but why let them expect to have a fairytale ending when happily ever after seems more like happily ever we will wait to see? Just a thought.
Angelkisses
